Now when we were kids, there was something that we always knew would most likely never hurt us. Love. As we grow older and experience such things as betrayal, heartbreaks, death, we know this is not the case anymore. Love is now something that can and will destroy us inside. However, there are those few moments in life when we can honestly say that we are truly happy with another person and forever has its true meaning.
-Post by Kathleen
Destiny is something that either you believe in it or you don't. Children seem to be more likely to believe in it than adults, though. When we are children, we see all of these fairytale destiny moments in movies, television, and even the books that we read. We picture all of these moments in our heads, let our imaginations soar, and desired for these fantasies to come true. All of these moments were so magical in our eyes and in our imaginations that we longed for destiny to work its magic on us. Adults tend to think more practically. They generally think that if you want something to happen, you have to work for it and make it happen yourself. After going through life experiences, they usually give up a little on fate and start to make things happen for themselves, so they in turn start to think that this is the only way they will get what they want and what they think they deserve; the only way to acheive is to make it so.
We pass by people, and meet people nearly on an everyday basis. There has to be a reason for it. Maybe we were meant to have them in our lives. Some people come into our lives as a blessing, but others are there as a lesson for next time. Because of our rash thinking, we may have mistaken the "blessings" as "lessons" and pushed people away who are meant to help us.
Everybody has their own little group of friends. Some of these groups are more inviting while others push people away. We see this in our everyday lives, such as in school. I sit in the classroom and when there is extra time at the end of class, some people stick to their small group, and others can and most likely will talk to everyone and anyone. I believe that everyone that comes into our lives has an important role to play to shape who we are and who we will be. We just have to be willing to let them.
-Post by Kathleen
I'm a beginner
And I wish somebody had told me
starting creative work?
there is this..."
I'm not sure about all of you, but when I was a kid I didn't have many friends. I spent my time with the people who truly understood me and genuinely wanted to be my friends. Have you guessed who they are? For those of you who still have no idea who I'm talking about, I'm talking of my imaginary friends. As a child, I'm not sure why, but I would cry about everything. I still remember this one time in second grade when the teacher skipped me while passing something out, so I raised my hand to tell her but when she asked me what I neded, I just started crying and I had no idea why. She pulled me out of the classroom to ask me what was wrong. I couldn't tell her because I was crying so much. I went to a private school so we would get two "color changes," which are like warnings, before we got a detention. She told me that if I wouldn't tell her why I was crying she would give me a color change. I got really scared because I've never gotten one in my life. Long story short...I ended up with a detention that day.This, of course, made the other kids in my class not want to hang out or play with me; they were scared they would make me cry so they shunned me from their groups.
This didn't matter much to me. It just meant I spent most of my time alone. Now don't get me wrong, I wasn't completely alone; I did have one friend who stuck by me even to this day. It just so happened that she would be absent most of the time, so I would walk around during recess and lunch by myself just talking to my imaginary friends. It didn't really help much that I had extremely low self-confidence and was not able to talk to other people at all. So as you can see...this didn't turn out very well for me. My classmates were too scared to talk to me thinking they would make me cry, I was too scared to talk to them because that's just how I was. I knew that my imaginary friends would never be mean to me, so I decided to stick with them. At home, I would talk to my stuffed animals and such, but when I had to leave my house, the friends that I created myself would go with me.
As kids we don't like the idea of facing our fears, so we stick to things that we already know that we're comfortable with. I'm pretty sure we all think that we will all eventually grow out of this mindset, but is that really the case? I know for me I have a really difficult time facing my fears. I still have a hard time talking to people I don't already know. Public speaking is a nightmare for me. When I have to say something in front of the class, or just in front of a large group of people in general, I start to feel really uncomfortable and I can feel the heat rushing up to my face. Everybody's eyes are on me and I feel pressured as if I'm going to say something wrong and completely embarrass myself.
There are many of us, even if we won't admit to it, are scared of something and are even more scared to face it. We go on life thinking that it isn't important or we'll eventually get over it, but this obviously is not the case. So next time you see a child playing with imaginary friends, or something of that sort, and you begin to question why, reflect on yourself to see if you're any "mature" than that child. Are we even capable of changing outselves so that we are no longer afraid of the simple things in life, or will we live forever wondering "What if?" Can we go out, have courage, and just do whatever it is that we're scared of?
-Post by Kathleen